love hate relationship

It's been over three years of boobing now. I love it when I'm awake, but when I get woken up for it I am at a point where I can't be bothered with it if that makes sense. I can't bear the thought of weening, so I know I'm gonna leave it to happen in it's own time, but sometimes I feel like I have a right to get the shits with it! He's a FERAL feeder! He pinches, bites, sucks crooked, and atm he's boobing all bloody night for some reason ... no reason that I can establish!

ARRRGGGHHHHHHHHH!

where are you at in your boobing relationship?

he's boobing all bloody night for some reason ... no reason that I can establish!

What's going on for him emotionally right now? Has anything changed, or do you think perhaps he is picking up on your stress from the wisdom teeth pain?

Or is he going through a cognitive or development spurt? How long has it been going on?

You have decided to let him wean when he is ready, which is great. So in the meantime, we need to make those night feeds as comfortable and easy as possible.

What's your sleeping arrangement like? And, this is a key one, what kind of thoughts and feelings are going on for you when you are woken, when he is feeding, and when you are trying to get back to sleep?

What about the bigger picture- what time does he wake in the morning, do you feel like you are getting enough sleep, what other issues are going on for you both?

where are you at in your boobing relationship?

We've nearly made it to the two year mark recommended by WHO, and we'll think about whether we will limit feeds then, depending on our general relationship and how he feels. At the moment I'm mostly happy, although I am getting frustrated that often when he asks for a feed, I'll sit down and get a boob out, and by then he shows no interest- until I get up and go back to what I was doing.

I think we've just come through a cognitive spurt. Lots of boobying over the last few days, and now he is stringing words together in a different way and using the potty.

It's been about a week and a half of the night feed crap, the tooth is only 6 days old. I wouldn't mind it if he didn't do hand actions at the same time. I don't feel tired, I'm just sick of being pinched on the nipple. He really isn't a "nice" breast feeder, and he never has been! I have suffered through 3 years of pinching, biting, over attachment, and other offenses against the nipple. WAH WAH WAH!

I always planned on reassessing at 1, then 2, then 3 came and went, and I never even considered reassessing. I just wish the bloody pinching would stop!!! He does it in a semi waking state, not when he's fast asleep normally. But atm, instead of sleeping though - which he was doing a week ago - he climbs over me saying "mum booby, I wan booby, I wan booby" and won't crash out again without it! He'd reached a point where he'd dropped the midnight feed, and was going from bed time (9-10ish) until about 6 or 7am.

IF there was a reason for it I'd suck it up, but there isn't so I wanna whinge lol. As long as I can have a gripe I'll get over it. He'll get over it and we'll just keep on truckin' ...... I mean BOOBIN'!

I think we haven't had a boob for a couple of days. I want him to feed again once baby is here, but on my own terms--I really really don't want to night feed, for example, but I don't want him to feel pushed out by the new bubba. And really, he's not yet two, I never imagined weaning at this age, even baby-led weaning. It's something I'm working through atm.

Spikee took it up again when james was born and the milk came back on board. Night time feeding two babies was NEVER a plan of mine, the older one just has to suck it up - poor S He's just come out in spots! I wonder if he's getting something poxy and that could explain it!?

kilmeny- definately something we can work on!

Morgaine- I dare say it could be some illness coming on. We've all been there, boobing like crazy for a few days nearly tearing our hair out in frustration- and then, suddenly out comes a reason

What's motivated your decision to let him wean in his own time?

I'm too lazy to wean and boobing is so great for everything, from a bump on the head to asthma attacks, that stopping seems silly! Although yesterday he announced that he's too big for booby! When I said to him "oh are you?" he said "nooooo" and giggled, but it was an interesting concept to come out of him coz no one has ever SAID anything like that to him. When we talked about it more he talked about booby being for babies, even though he still wants to have booby.

And it's a really good thing that you can talk about it together. It's going to make the transition even smoother when he chooses to wean, because you will both be able to talk about what breastfeeding meant for you, and what you'll miss, so the grief you will feel can be worked through in a positive, connected way.

I think I'll feel more sadness than grief coz we did have such a good whack at it ykwim? L

Last night he fell asleep with his big sister in the lounge room, we left him there. He came into bed at about 1 and said "wan booby mum" and I said "ok in a minute" and he was snoring before I could even get it out

Yeah, it was when I really that my supply was gone and that the constant demands for boob were really his way of telling me he was hungry that his feeds cut back dramatically. I'd say, of course you can have bubboo, but would you like a banana first? and when the hunger was quenched, the desire for boob was gone too.

It's all settled down now. He's mostly putting himself to sleep at night without a feed now too! Then at about 7am he crawls into bed with me and helps himself (easy when I'm not wearing much!)